Friday, September 2, 2011

Is It Hypocritical........?

........As a natural sistah to cut your son's hair because you are tired of dealing with it everyday? I have been at odds with this whole process of cutting my youngest child's hair. This doesn't mean I didn't love his extremely, extremely tightly coiled hair :) It just got to be a bit much to comb it at 6 a.m. And he surely didn't want to sit still for a detail session with his hair. Needless to say i was criticized for being loc'd and not "accepting" the "struggle" of combing the baby's hair everyday. I love his hair, but mommy is tired and he didn't want to sit for it.....I was stuck in between a rock and a hard place on this..... I cut it for both our sanity. The new haircut does make him seem a bit older. Looking at him many people think he is a year old when he is only 8 months. Yes. I couldn't hold out...If I had it my way he would have baby locs lol... What do you guys think?????????

Sunday, August 28, 2011

2 YEARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yayyyyyy! I have reached the 2 year mark on 8/25/11. Needless to say I am both elated and frustrated all at the same time. This past year has gone by really fast. Between having my second child, finishing my degree, dealing with my husband and changing professions.......I have been overly stressed. I haven't done many styles to my hair this past year, partially because of all the weakening and breakage I have experienced. I will say that I am partially to blame for this as I am not great at conditioning my hair, or tying it up at night. My silk pillowcase has been in the linen closet for the past year. That has been mainly due to the fact that I saw no need for it, I assumed my hair would grow regardless. Couple this with the stress, and lack of conditioning, and postpartum hair loss and BAM! there you have it...LOCK LOSS!

I can't begin to tell you how many locks I have lost. I have lost four in this week alone and i have a few that are hanging on by one strand for dear life. The loss has occur ed along my hairline only on the edges.One of the longest locks I have is about to break off. I wouldn't be so frustrated , if it didn't take so long for my hair to grow. Don't get me wrong, I am happy with my locks, the GOOD and THE BAD so please do not get the wrong impression. When you have put so much energy in to trying to grow it, it hurts when it falls out in the sink. Especially when you have been down this road as a permie before.

So instead of dwelling on the negative and being hurt, I have decided to take action. I will be using the organic root stimulator system to restore my edges. The fertilizing serum helped when I lost my hair in the past. I will change my diet, by eating more veggies and drinking more water, exercising (with the time I have), and taking hair supplements. I recognize my hair is brittle and fragile to begin with, so sleeping in a bonnet and conditioning my hair at least bi-weekly will be a start. I was on a routine of just washing and going and I believe this may have contributed to my loss.

What do I look forward to next? My hair gaining it's strength back. On Septemeber 24th I will be visiting my loctician so that we can fix my hair. I tend to overexaagerate these things, but this is serious to me. When your locks start snapping off something is WRONG!I would like for my locks around the edges to be combined, or the same size as the ones in the center and near the back because it is so fragile. To not compromise my locs any further, I hope we can agree on this. Of course....still after two years I am STILL HOPING FOR SOME LENGTH. And yes I am still contemplating extensions. I am simply tired of my hair not being healthy for one, and not feeling as confident about it.

I do want to continue with my natural hair, that was the whole purpose of my not getting extensions to begin with.My hair has grown, there is no denying that. pretty soon I will have the pony I want so badly. I will be taking a break from DIYing to go see my loctician. I hope to be able to color it sometime in the fall, but this is not a definite thing. After going to my loctician for a few months and getting back on track I am sure things will be fine... I look forward to my second year and I wonder what I have to look forward to next.....

Sunday, June 19, 2011

22 months :)

On a more lighter note here is a cute updo I did last month right after a Reti with my loctician. It didn't take a lot of manuevering, just five hairpins, and wet hair, and a flat iron and pow here was the outcome.

Let me know what you guys think!


Okay I know a lot of peoples locks go through a lot of changes. But my hair around the edges is breaking off or thinng. I have lost locks on my edges ( about three within a weeks time) and there is one that is thinning at the base. WTD! I have only done one reti since I became a diyer, so I don't think that has much to do with it. I am at odds at what to do as I look down in my head and see more weak locks everyday.

Help Please,

Sunday, May 15, 2011

Update @ 21 months

I know it has been a couple of months. usually I don't go this long without posting something, but it has been one thing after another.

I finally finished school!!!!!!!!1 After three long, hard, arduous years I finally have my Bachelor's degree in Human Resource Management! Never have I been more happy to be done with this chapter in my life.

However, I must tell you guys of some of the interviews I have been on the past few weeks.I won't name any names of companies, but I will elaborate on some of the things I have gone through in relation to my hair. I notice for over the past year that when I walk in to an interviewing session the first thing that people look at is my hair. This doesn't really bother me as I assume they are just looking me from head to toe anyway. I have been on numerous interviews the past year, even third and fourth interviews and not offered a position. After clearing up a minor issue on my background (I say minor because it never stopped me from getting a job) I got back in to the groove of applying to jobs again after the tax season. After looking back, I decided to test my theory. As an HR major, I understand that "looks" is not a protected class for discrmination. But, I wanted to see if it indeed goes on.

I applied with a payroll company, for two different positions. The first position I interviewed with my sisterlocks. The interview went fantastic! However, I was denied the position and not given a reason why. I did notice that the interviewer kept looking at my head throughout the interview. I just wrote it off as maybe she was trying to figure out what they were. Two weeks later I get a call from the same company asking to interview for another position. I decided at that time I would wear my little sisters wig cap to the interview, Just to see how far it would go. I went to the interview, with the wig on, a brand new suit, and high heels, minimal makeup and a fresh manicure (not to say I didn't have these things in the first interview only thing missing was the hair) the response I got from team members working there, and from the interviewer changed. There were compliments on both my hair and my appearance. Needless to say I was offered the position. What is funny to me is the second interview didn't go half as good as the first one and BOOM! There I was with an offer. Could it be because of my doll like appearance?

I would hope not. Because my qualifications speak for itself. But I can't help but wonder.... I have been on so many interviews it is not even funny. And here in Michigan you must do what it takes to secure your future. I know this may tick a few of you off, but I had to know that's why I wore the cap that day. I know many lock wearers out there have issue with covering your sisterlocks for whatever reason.

As for my sisterlocks. They are doing so so. I say so so because due to stress my hair has been coming out on the edges. I have yet to take the sisterlock re tightening class because of time constraints, but I am getting to it this weekend. I didn't know my consultant would turn out to be one of my best friends :) I am looking forward to it, because I need a reti like never before.

I am still a bit frustrated about length. But all I can do is be patient. Here is my hair last Sunday on Mother's Day. I want to try and color my locks soon, but not before getting approval from my consultant. I just need something different.

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

18 Months

I have been dog tired since the start of the new semester, and trying to take these last three classes. To top it off, my youngest son now two months old still isn't sleeping through the night. I am also working full time....Yes. I am exhausted to say the least.
Good thing is it will all be over in 7 weeks. And I will have my bachelor's degree. I can't wait.

I have good news. I am taking the retightening class with Paulette @ Locks For Life in April. I figure it is worth the $250 to learn how to do them on my own if need be. I notice that they don't teach you how to fix/repair locks, so for this I will be sure I continue to follow up with my consultant Ashlee when I do start to reti on my own.

I am so excited to be a diyer. I am ready for the freedom.

My hair is doing great. I have been getting so many compliments on it lately. Even from some very old "judgemental" older folk. lol. I havent done anything different. Here are a few pics from the other day...

Sunday, January 30, 2011

Soft Spikes

I should have taken more pics of the soft spikes but, I had already been back to work when I finally decided to go ahead and get pics of my locs. I really, really like these curls. Unlike the pipe cleaners you see in the previous post, these locs seem like a lot more of a loose, soft type curl. Once again it is all about preference. In order to get the curl I wanted to achieve, which was basically a Pin curl type (I know it's old school but I had a style in mind since my hair is still relatively short); I just wet my hair and got to rolling. The way I rolled my hair on the pipe cleaners was the same concept as the pipe cleaners, except with the soft spike you pull through the hole at the end of the curler. Needless to say I looked like a spike haired fool lol and my firstborn child thought I looked like a spiked haired alien, but I loved the end result and my kid thought I looked pretty cool with the little swords in my hair :) You can tell I prefer these over the pipe cleaners. I will return to the pipe cleaners in a few months, maybe this spring or summer when my hair is slightly longer.
by the way speaking of longer I am noticing a lot of new growth!

So here we go again, here are my likes and dislikes...

1. I really like how soft they are. They are a little bigger to allow for a more loose curl, but although they are larger I can still decide how tight the curl is by adding or subtracting a few locs from the curler.
2. It didn't take long to prep and curl my hair. Like I said with the pipe cleaners it takes a little bit of time.

1. You still cannot sleep on the soft spikes, although soft...they are still uncomfortable.

Here are a few funny pics of the outcome

It may be a minute before I log back in to here, I will try to keep track of my progress best I can because if I don't I swear I won't see any progress. Plus I am sure there are some out there going through the same thing as I am, or those that have the same concerns as I do at this stage. This teen stage is an awkward kind of stage for me. My locs are neither really long or really short per se. They are just stuck. But hey, they are growing and that has been my number one complaint for over a year now.

I have taken the steps towards my own independence. I contacted a loctician that is able to teach the retightening class, she has yet to get back with me to say when exactly the class is, but I will contact her after my next retightening with my loctician ( assuming I am able to make it next week) like I said I am in the middle of a tax season). i have been tempted to try the nappyloc tool. I even bought one. But I am really trying to hold out to take the class. This is just getting crazy. I keep having to wait longer and longer in between reti to schedule appointments. And it is simply not working. I still want to continue to go to her to keep track of my progress but it is time to cut the umbilical cord. I am 17 months in, it is time I struck out on my own. :) In the meantime, I guess I will continue to try new things with my hair as it grows and I will update on my DIY journey this year.

17 Months & Pipe Cleaner Curls

Hi guys!
I am sooooooo exhausted with the new baby. It is weird how your life changes when there is a new little one in the house. I returned to work earlier this week due to high demand of everyone needing their taxes filed and the office being short staffed. So right before I went back I did what I promised I would do this year and that was take a step in the right direction and use some initiative to style my locs. Once again I had to postpone my appointment with my loctician for various reasons ie. scheduling, monies, the baby etc. So needless to say I have more than enough new growth. It looks like I have about a little more than 1/4 of an inch of new growth in my head. I notice that my hair is shedding a little bit after having the baby. I have seen people hair completely fall out and lose locs after having a child so a little shedding is the least of my concerns. The first thing I tried was the pipe cleaner curls. After researching on Youtube and looking at the various blogs on Google, I decided to make a run to Joann fabric out here in Canton, MI. Here are some of the things I liked and a few things I didn't like...

1. Pipe cleaners create some of the tightest curls around. You can sleep on these curls for days, even live in a humid environment and these curls will STILL HANG ON TIGHT!
2. They are sooo cheap to put in. I only paid about 5 bucks for a pack of 100 chenille pipe cleaners. This definitely beats the $70 or $80 bucks I was about to spend on lock loops.
4. I can adjust the pipe cleaners how I saw fit. If I needed shorter ones I cut shorter ones for my edges. If I needed longer ones for the top and back of my hair, I didn't cut at all.

1. They poke your head! Do not sleep with these things in your hair! Do not even lay down. My head is still a little tender from this.
2. Do not use these things if you are in desperate need of a retightening. They will snag your new growth and can compromise the base of your locs.
3. You must leave these in for a few hours. I can't really say that this is a dislike because if I curl my hair I usually do it on free time. But with the baby I need something fast.
4. Speaking of fast, be sure you set aside at least an hour to put these pipe cleaners in.
5. And lastly, I am not sure if I really like them on my short locs. Yes my hair is growing, but it is all about preference. I think they are cute, but a little wild on short hair.

Okay enough of that here is how they turned out.